Rihanna’s interview with Diane Sawyer marked the first time the singer spoke publicly about the Chris Brown incident. See the Rihanna interview video here!
Calling Chris Brown her ‘first big love,’ she appeared stoic and poised in her face to face with Diane Sawyer. The sit down had been hotly anticipated following her relative silence in the months after the incident. Brown on the other hand has been quite the opposite. He has been all over radio and twitter voicing his displeasure with the treatment he has since received.
During the interview, Rihanna seemed to reflect back on her relationship with Brown, and how even then she could sense trouble:
“The more in love we became, the more dangerous we became for each other.”
The singer hinted that she feels she should’ve followed the instinct to remove herself from the situation, and offered that advice to young women:
“I will say that to any young girl that is going through domestic violence, don’t react off of love. ‘F’ love. Come out of the situation and look at it in the third person and for what it really is.”
She also expressed regret that she ever went back to Brown after the incident, saying that she was “so far in love,” that it clouded her judgment. She said:
“I stayed. I even went back after he beat me, which was wrong…”
It seems she has grown very fast in a short period of time, calling the experience was ‘humiliating’ and ‘traumatizing.’ She made it obvious that she has learned a very difficult lesson in all of this, saying:
“It was a wake up call. It was a wake up call for me. Big time.”
Check out the Rihanna interview with Diane Sawyer video below, and give us your thoughts in the comments section. I’ve also included some photos as well.
Photos: www.wenn.com/Will Alexander/Patricia Shlein
November 5th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
Wish Rihanna the best. She is a strong lady and I know she will stay strong. It takes alot of strength to come out and share her story with the world. May God/Yah be with her now and in the future.
November 5th, 2009 at 8:52 pm
it seems i am alone in my perception of rhianna and her “message” to young women.
certainly, i applaud her leaving chris brown.
no woman should endure any type of domestic violence.
and it is true that many women continue to stay in abusive relationships….but it often out economic necessity, and they have no where else to go and no financial resources. not everyone has a bank account like rhiannas. she should be eternally grateful that she has the financial resources to support herself.
if she really wants to have an impact on or be a voice for domestic violence, perhaps she should consider, making financial contributions to women’s crisis centers that are really trying to help women out of abusive relationships.
secondly, another way in which rhianna sends a message to young girls is how she chooses to dress, which quite frankly, is trashy and whorish. in her latest album, rated R, she seems to be portraying a facination with violence and sexuality.
scantily clad and wrapped in barbed wire?
what is that about?
i know rhianna is young, but she needs to realize she is a pop icon, and young girls will look up to her and emulate her. she seems too caught up in her fame and sexuality to really take a hard look at the image she portrays.
thank goodness i am not raising a daughter, otherwise i would be very concerned about the female role models in pop culture.
lastly, the way diane saywer essentially coddled rhianna was sickening.
Poor rhianna…..
no not poor rhianna, rhianna is rich and famous
and sure its embarassing for the world to know that she went back to man that beat the crap out of her, but that is nothing compared to the emotional devastation that women endure who are not wealthy enough to walk away.
November 6th, 2009 at 6:37 am
You know the awful thing here is how people think with emotion and not common sense. Yes I so agree that it was the most positive thing for her to do was leave Chris because that relationship wasn’t working out obviously but I also think people need to be open minded that there are always two sides to every story. My thing is don’t be sucked in by the whole I’m trying to do whats right by speaking out muble jumble!!! If your trying to do what’s right why wait til it’s time for your album to drop and speak weeks before?? Seems to me she has a great adviser and people are getting sucked in by the fact that she is speaking out and not the reason why she is speaking out. I whole heartedly agree that Chris was wrong for the attack but I just witnessed someone really close to me on Wednesday night slap, punch and kick her boyfriend. She was hitting him like he was a dude and he kept trying to refrane his self until he just lost it and choked her penning her against a wall. After she was let lose she continued at certain points to put her hand on him until he again punched her back. All I’m saying is sometimes we as women need to learn that you can’t hit someone thinking oh he’s a man he better not hit me back and then one day they just lose it on you. He spoke to me after the incident and explain to me that this is always what happens when they start to argue and he’s trying to leave. What I witnessed was horrible and I was so angry at her after seeing that because sometimes you can provoke a person and then when something pops off all of a sudden your the vic because a man put his hands on you.. All I’m saying is think about things before you jump on anyones side and remember no one was there but in my case I actually for the first time saw just how a man can end up loosing it and forgetting that you are a female. I was in an abusive relationship so I know how it feels and that and that alone is why I strongly stand firmly behind all parties keeping their hands to themselves. Remember everything on TV isn’t always exactly as it seems and people use the sympathy card to make money and capitolize off of the public because most of you don’t know wny better and that includes the adults who get sucked in……..
November 6th, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Please go here to watch Chris Brown’s complete MTV Interview..
http://neonlimelight.com/2009/11/06/chris-brown-responds-to-rihanna-interview-assault-details-should-remain-between-us/#comment-251045
Sway asked him …
“What provoked you to do it” and
Chris Brown said “Anger”….
He didn’t say “she hit me” or anything about her being violent. He’s not trying to justify his actions by blaming her, so it makes no sense that people keep trying to build him up by bashing her. If you want to support him…say “What you did was wrong. We’re glad you are getting the help you need”. There is no merit in supporting unwarranted violence, which he doesn’t even support himself. Most of all, You guys hate her but he loves her and nothing you wankers say will change that. Obviously he knows she is a great person.
November 7th, 2009 at 5:30 am
Okay I think it is great that she came out to speak about this but in the same since I was in an emotionally abusive relationship that turned to me getting beat one night and having three young kids and being finacially unstable with out him I had two choices poverty and homeless or being treated like that and having my kids see it and think it was okay. Needless to say I choose poverty but worked my butt off to get us back up on our feet while going to school. I am a little upset about her doing this but what is she going to do to help young women. I sympothize with her but she should not of gone back I had kids and a tuff choice of being in a nice home or being out in shelters with my kids. I am glad I made my choice and had him serve jail time for what he done to me and it showed my kids that it is not okay and it gave me motivation to not be portraying a victim but a survivor. She is portraying a victim which granted she is but she needs to realize that girls need to see her as a survivor. It seems women who feel that they are victims stay because they do not see another way. I did not either only thing I knew is that I did not want anyone to think it was ever okay to be getting beat on I watched my mother go through it one too many times. I stayed in school and worked to get me and my kids up on our feet. I agree with north country girl not everyone has her bank account and it is terrifying to only have the choice of staying and being abused or leaving and not having a home. As adults though those are choices we have to make and we have to work even harder to make it on our own but I know if I could do it with three kids and min wage work then any one could do it. Just knowing you are not alone or asking if you want to be another statistic. Or asking what you would tell a good friend or sister or cousin in that situation what ever you would tell them is what you should tell your self no one deserves this no one at any point deserves this no women or man or child deserves to live in this situation.